Fearing Failure No More

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Dear Becoming Moms,

You’ve been on my heart. And just about every time I think of you or pray for you, I have this weighty moment where I pause and I think: “Oh Lord. Please, don’t let me fail these women.”  

And after a week of reciting this “Lord, let me not fail” mantra, God spoke up and reminded me that I’m not called to fail or succeed here.  I am simply called to act in obedience. 

So why am I so scared of failing you?  God reminds me that we [as in us moms] are simply called to act. To nurture. To try. To try again. To pray to Him for help & direction. To share our parental joys with Him. And to share our parental woes with Him. To lean on Him. To learn from Him. To learn from our experiences. And…to be present in our daughter’s lives – even when we don’t get it perfect. It’s not about passing or failing – it’s just about taking action.

Ladies, as you lead your daughters and aspire to build stronger relationships with them. Remember: it’s not about being perfect. It’s not about passing or failing. It’s simply about being present enough in your daughters’ life to take action, make effort, and to be there for her. You might struggle with what to say, when to say it, or how to lead the two of you into a deeper relationship – that’s okay. I do too.

As moms we are all plagued with moments of self-doubt, bewilderment, and a complete loss about what to tell our daughters.  I find myself in those moments all the time  [que my 2^nd mantra]

“Dear God, It’s me: Emily.  Am I doing this right???”

But that’s okay. If you find yourself in a “moment” it’s simply evidence that you’re trying and you’re taking action. Bravo.

Your daughter is going to find herself in plenty of moments where she’s afraid of failing, too. And as a mom you might realize that succeeding or failing isn’t even the point.  The point is that she just has to try. Be her example.

XO, Emily Falappino

Ecclesiastes 11:6